The simplest way would be to measure efficiencies. Carnot's theorem says that the maximal efficiency of a heat engine (or, as you call it, a "heat transfer process") is:$$\eta = 1-\frac{Q_2}{Q_1}=1-\frac{T_2}{T_1}.$$Clausius's based his concept of entropy, that$$\oint\frac{dQ}{T}\le0,$$on Carnot's theorem, where $dQ>0$ means heat is absorbed by the system and "$=$" means an irreversible cycle.
Thus, if Carnot's theorem is violated, so is the 2nd Law.
You have misunderstood a subtle connection in thermodynamics. Heat flow does not necessarily mean temperature must change. I think you are also missing a key concept in the understanding of the term "heat".
When studying thermodynamics, it is much more accurate (and also much more helpful, I think) to consider heat simply as "energy that is transferred from one object to another due to a difference in temperature". Now that last part is very important; heat is not some magical or special form of energy, it is energy. The only special part is that it is mainly connected to temperature and occurs only due to a difference in temperature.
In fact, due to its definition, it is also somewhat inaccurate to say that an object has "heat" per se. An object has thermal energy, yes, but not exactly "heat" because "heat" is only transferred, not contained (although many people and physicists use it that way all the time because what they actually mean is well understood). If you really want to delve deeper into heat, see this excellent answer by Mark. The wikipedia page on heat is also very helpful.
Think of it like this; say I have a trapped gas in a closed piston with a very smooth piston walls so it has almost no friction. If I attach a small weight to that piston and slowly pump heat into my system and let that system attain equilibrium for each small step of the way, that gas might expand and do work against/on the small weight that piston-rod is connected to instead of increasing the temperature of the system. Here heat is being transformed very obviously into work because you see the weight moving, even if it's slow.
Your ice to water example is a different case but a good one when trying to probe into what that heat is doing. Indeed, it goes back to the very heart of understanding heat and energy. Heat, in this case of phase change (or state change) of water, is being channeled into overcoming the intermolecular forces of ice. In other words, the heat is being used to break the crystal structure of ice rather than to increase the average kinetic energy of the molecules. The heat is doing work, just not macroscopic work.
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To keep things simple, they fooled us in freshman physics. They told us that $Q=nC\Delta T$. But this equation is not correct when work is being done. If they didn't want to confuse us, they should have introduced the internal energy U, and correctly defined the heat capacity (at least for ideal gases and incompressible solids and liquids) in terms of U by the equation $\Delta U=nC\Delta T$. This equation still gives the correct result for Q when no work is being done. But for cases in which work is being done, we obtain from the 1st law$$\Delta U=nC\Delta T=Q-W$$For an isothermal case, this reduces to Q = W.