Yes, we can.
We use the following two lemmas (the proofs are written at the end of the answer) :
For $n=1$, we can choose the column.
For $n=2$, we can choose the first column.
For $n=3$, if choosing the first and the second columns works, then we are done. If it doesn't work, then we may suppose that $[1,1],[1,2],[2,1],[2,2],[3,1]$ are marked and $[1,3],[2,3],[3,2]$ are unmarked. Then, choosing the first column works.
For $n=4$, if there is a pair of distinct integers $(s,t)$ such that $[1,s]=[1,t]$ and $[2,s]=[2,t]$, then we may suppose that $[3,s]$ is marked and that $[3,t]$ is unmarked.
case 1 : If $[3,u]=[3,v]$ where $u\not=v$ are different from $s$ and $t$, then choosing the $s$-th and the $u$-th columns works.
case 2 : If $[3,u]$ is marked and $[3,v]$ is unmarked, then choosing the $s$-th and the $v$-th columns works.
If there is no pair of distinct integers $(s,t)$ such that $[1,s]=[1,t]$ and $[2,s]=[2,t]$, then we may suppose that $[1,1],[1,3],[2,1],[2,4]$ are marked and $[1,2],[1,4],[2,2],[2,3]$ are unmarked. If choosing the first and the second columns works, then we are done. If it doesn't work, then from $(\star)$, choosing the first column works.
For $n=5$, if there are two distinct pairs of distinct integers $(s,t),(u,v)$ such that $[1,s]=[1,t],$$[2,s]=[2,t],$$[1,u]=[1,v]$ and $[2,u]=[2,v]$, then choosing the $s$-th and the $v$-th columns works.
If there is only one pair of distinct integers $(s,t)$ such that $[1,s]=[1,t]$ and $[2,s]=[2,t]$, then we may suppose that we have the following three cases :
case 1 : $[1,1],[1,2],[2,1],[2,2],[3,1]$ are marked and $[3,2],[1,5],[2,5]$ are unmarked. If choosing the first and the third columns works, then we are done. If it doesn't workd, then choosing the second and the third columns works.
case 2 : $[1,1],[1,2],[1,3],[2,3],[2,4],[3,1]$ are marked and $[1,4],[1,5],[2,1],[2,2],[3,2]$ are unmarked. If choosing the first and the third columns works, then we are done. If it doesn't work, then choosing the second and the third columns works.
case 3 : $[1,3],[1,5],[2,4],[2,5],[3,1]$ are marked and $[1,1],[1,2],[1,4],[2,1],[2,2],[2,3],[3,2]$ are unmarked. If choosing the first and the third and the fourth columns workds, then we are done. If it doesn't work, then choosing the first and the fifth columns works.
For $n=6$, we may suppose that there are two distinct pairs of distinct integers $(s,t),(u,v)$ such that $[1,s]=[1,t],$$[2,s]=[2,t],$$[1,u]=[1,v]$ and $[2,u]=[2,v]$. Then, we may suppose that $[3,s],[3,u]$ are marked and that $[3,t],[3,v]$ are unmarked. Now, choosing the $s$-th and the $v$-th and the one from the rest two columns works.
For $n=7$, we may suppose that there are three distinct pairs of distinct integers $(a,b),(c,d),(e,f)$ such that $[1,a]=[1,b],$$[2,a]=[2,b],$$[1,c]=[1,d],$$[2,c]=[2,d],$$[1,e]=[1,f]$ and $[2,e]=[2,f]$. Then, we may suppose that $[3,a],[3,c],[3,e]$ are marked and that $[3,b],[3,d],[3,f]$ are unmarked. If $[3,g]$ is marked where $g$ is different from $a,b,c,d,e$ and $f$, then choosing the $a$-th, the $c$-th and the $f$-th columns works. If $[3,g]$ is unmarked, then choosing the $a$-th , the $d$-th and the $f$-th columns works.
For $n=8$, we may suppose that there are four distinct pairs of distinct integers $(a,b),(c,d),(e,f),(g,h)$ such that $[1,a]=[1,b],$$[2,a]=[2,b],$$[1,c]=[1,d],$$[2,c]=[2,d],$$[1,e]=[1,f],$$[2,e]=[2,f],$$[1,g]=[1,h]$ and $[2,g]=[2,h]$. Then, we may suppose that $[3,a],[3,c],[3,e],[3,g]$ are marked and that $[3,b],[3,d],[3,f],[3,h]$ are unmarked. Now, choosing the $a$-th, the $d$-th, the $e$-th and the $h$-th columns works.
Best Answer
Yes, this is true. Take $A$ to be an admissible set achieving the highest possible $m(A),$ but subject to that condition, with the minimum achievable number of cells equal to $m(A).$ (So we prefer one entry to equal $m(A)$ rather than two.)
Without loss of generality, $A$ is the set of diagonal cells, and the $(1,1)$ cell is $m(A).$ Consider which cells are not in $A$ but are strictly greater than $m(A).$ Call these "augmenting".
If there is a row with no augmenting cells, then the element of $A$ in that row is at least $1-2m(A),$ which gives $s(A)\geq 1.$ So we are done unless each row has an augmenting cell.
If the $(2,1)$ and $(3,1)$ cells are not augmenting, then the total of the cells in the $(2,2),(2,3),(3,2),(3,3)$ positions is at least $2-2m(A).$ Therefore either of $\{(1,1),(2,2),(3,3)\}$ or $\{(1,1),(2,3),(3,2)\}$ has sum at least $1,$ and by the previous paragraph these both have minimum at least $m(A),$ so we're done.
The remaining case is that one of the $(2,1)$ or $(3,1)$ cells is augmenting. Some cell in the first row is also augmenting. If $(1,2)$ and $(2,1)$ are augmenting then the set $(1,2),(2,1),(3,3)$ is an admissible set contradicting the choice of $A$ - it either has a higher minimum or the same minimum but fewer elements achieving the minimum. Similarly we are done if $(1,3)$ and $(3,1)$ are augmenting. Otherwise wlog $(2,1),(1,3)$ are augmenting and $(3,1),(1,2)$ are not (the other case just swaps $2$ and $3$). Then $(3,2)$ must be augmenting because it is the only remaining cell in the third row, so $(2,1),(1,3),(3,2)$ forms an admissible set with higher minimum.