You can formulate change of basis rigorously as follows, given $S$ is a linear transformation. Let $[S]_{\beta}^{\beta '}$ be the matrix corresponding to $S$ with respect to basis $\beta$ in the domain and $\beta'$ in the codomain. In our case, if $\beta =\{v_1,...,v_n\}$and $\beta'=\{w_1,...,w_n\}$, then we can write $S(v_j)=\sum_{i}a_{ij}w_i$. Then $[S]_{\beta}^{\beta'}=\begin{bmatrix}a_{11} & a_{12}&\dots&a_{1n} \\a_{21}&a_{22}&\dots&a_{2n}\\\vdots&\vdots&\ddots&\vdots\\a_{n1}&a_{n2}&\dots&a_{nn} \ \end{bmatrix}$. Now matrix multiplication is compatible with linear transformation if the bases are in the "right place". For example if $S$ and $T$ are linear transformation (from $\mathbb R^n$ to itself), then given $\beta,\beta',\beta''$ are bases of $\mathbb R^n$. Then $[ST]_{\color{blue}{\beta}}^{\color{green}{\beta ''}}=[S]_{\color{red}{\beta'}}^{\color{green}{\beta''}}[T]_{\color{blue}{\beta}}^{\color{red}{\beta '}}$
Now back to your question. Let's say you have a linear transformation $A$, and you know its matrix corresponding to a certain basis $\beta$, i.e. given $[A]_{\beta}^{\beta}$. You seek to find the matrix of $A$ corresponding to another basis $\beta'$, i.e. $[A]_{\beta'}^{\beta'}$. Then by the identity above, let $I$ be the identity map, we should have $[A]_{\beta'}^{\beta'}=[I]^{\beta'}_{\beta}[A]_{\beta}^{\beta}[I]_{\beta'}^{\beta}$. Specifically in your case, $\beta'=\{(1,2),(2,0)\}$, $[I]_{\beta'}^{\beta}$ is just asking how to write $a\begin{bmatrix}1\\2\end{bmatrix}+b\begin{bmatrix}2\\0\end{bmatrix}$ in terms of something like $f(a,b)\begin{bmatrix}1\\0\end{bmatrix}+g(a,b)\begin{bmatrix}0\\1\end{bmatrix}$. Then,
$$[I]_{\beta'}^{\beta}:\begin{bmatrix}a\\b\end{bmatrix}\mapsto\begin{bmatrix}f(a,b)\\g(a,b)\end{bmatrix}=\begin{bmatrix}a+2b\\2a\end{bmatrix}=\begin{bmatrix}1&2\\2&0\end{bmatrix}\begin{bmatrix}a\\b\end{bmatrix}$$,
i.e. $[I]_{\beta'}^{\beta}=\begin{bmatrix}1&2\\2&0\end{bmatrix}$
And then $[I]_{\beta}^{\beta'}=([I]_{\beta'}^{\beta})^{-1}=\begin{bmatrix}1&2\\2&0\end{bmatrix}^{-1}$, because their product should give you $\begin{bmatrix} 1&0\\0&1 \end{bmatrix}$.
But when you do the reversed direction, you need to find write $\begin{bmatrix}1\\0\end{bmatrix}$and $\begin{bmatrix}0\\1\end{bmatrix}$ in terms of $\begin{bmatrix}1\\2\end{bmatrix}$ and $\begin{bmatrix}2\\1\end{bmatrix}$, so it should be the reversed process. Again we start by writing any vector as $a\begin{bmatrix}1\\0\end{bmatrix}+b \begin{bmatrix}0\\1\end{bmatrix}$, the matrix should send this $(a,b)$ to the coefficients with respect to the other basis' vectors, i.e. $f'(a,b)\begin{bmatrix}1\\2\end{bmatrix}+g'(a,b)\begin{bmatrix}2\\0\end{bmatrix}$, which you can find by solving the linear equations or finding matrix's inverse.
In short, the "easy to remember method" for change of basis matrix $[I]_{\beta}^{\beta'}$ from $\beta=\{v_1,...,v_n\}$ to $\beta'=\{w_1,...,w_n\}$ is that the $\text{j}^{\text{th}}$ column is the column of unique coefficients to write $v_j=a_{1j}w_1+...+a_{nj}w_n$, i.e. $\begin{bmatrix} a_{1j}\\a_{2j}\\ \vdots\\a_{nj}\end{bmatrix}$
The matrix of $T$ in basis $(x_1,x_2)$ has for columns the coordinates of $T(x_1)$ and $T(x_2)$ in basis $(x_1,x_2)$. Thus
$$A=\begin{bmatrix}2&1\\1&0\end{bmatrix}\quad\text{(no standard basis in this)}.$$
For the basis $(y_1,y_2)$, use the change of basis matrix from basis $(x_1,x_2)$ to basis $(y_1,y_2)$: its column vectoes are the coordinates of $y_1$ and $y_2$ in basis $(x_1,x_2)$, i.e.
$$P=\begin{bmatrix}4&1\\2&-1\end{bmatrix}.$$
The change of basis formula asserts that the matrix of $T$ in the new basis is
$$B=P^{-1}AP,\quad\text{so }\quad A=PBP^{-1}.$$
All that remains to do is calculating the inverse of $P$.
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Assuming that $b1 = \begin{bmatrix}1 \\-2\end{bmatrix}$ and $b2 = \begin{bmatrix}-3 \\-5\end{bmatrix}$ are in terms of the standard basis, the matrix that change your basis to the standard one is \begin{equation} P = \left(\begin{matrix} 1 & -3\\ -2 & -5 \end{matrix}\right). \end{equation} This implies that the matrix of $T$ expressed in the standard basis must be following product: \begin{equation} P\left(\begin{matrix}4 & 6 \\5 & 3 \end{matrix}\right) P^{-1} = \left(\begin{matrix}1 & -3 \\-2 & -5 \end{matrix}\right) \left(\begin{matrix}4 & 6 \\5 & 3 \end{matrix}\right) \left(\begin{matrix}5/11 & -3/11 \\-2/11 & -1/11 \end{matrix}\right) \end{equation}
This is because the input vector, that must be multiplicated by the right hand side, must be changed from the standard basis to the original one (using $P^{-1}$) and the output vector must be changed from the original basis to the standard one (using $P$).