The fact that this involves "convolutions" and sums of i.i.d. random variables makes me think of trying to deduce the distribution from Moment generating functions. Using the independence of the $\xi_i$, we have (for $t<\lambda$),
$$
\begin{eqnarray*}
\mathbb{E}\left[e^{t\sum\limits_{n=1}^{\nu}\xi_{n}}\right]&{}={}&\sum\limits_{r=1}^{\infty}\int{\textbf{1}}_{\left\{\xi_{1}\leq 1,\,\ldots\,,\,\xi_{r-1}\leq 1\,,\,\xi_{r}>1 \right\}}e^{t\left(\sum\limits_{n=1}^{r}z_{n}\right)}f_{z_1}\ldots f_{z_r}dz_1\ldots dz_r\newline
&{}={}&\sum\limits_{r=1}^{\infty}\left(\dfrac{\lambda}{\lambda{}-{}t}\right)^r e^{t-\lambda}\left(1{}-{}e^{t-\lambda}\right)^{r-1}\newline
&{}={}&e^{t-\lambda}\dfrac{\lambda}{\lambda{}-{}t}\sum\limits_{r=1}^{\infty}\left(\dfrac{\lambda}{\lambda{}-{}t}\right)^{r-1} \left(1{}-{}e^{t-\lambda}\right)^{r-1}\newline
&{}={}&\left(\dfrac{e^{t-\lambda}\dfrac{\lambda}{\lambda{}-{}t}}{1{}-{}\left(\dfrac{\lambda}{\lambda{}-{}t}\right) \left(1{}-{}e^{t-\lambda}\right)}\right)\,\newline
&{}={}&\dfrac{1}{1{}-{}e^{\lambda{}-{}t}t/\lambda}\,.
\end{eqnarray*}
$$
This looks like $\sum\limits_{n=1}^{\nu}\xi_{n}$ is trying to be exponentially distributed with "rate" $\lambda/e^{\lambda{}-{}t}$, but I do not know this functional form by heart. Any ideas?
Edit:
Not knowing the explicit inverse of the final generating function form above, I thought of examining each term in the equivalent series representation: perhaps the individual terms have nicer inverses. If this is the case, then a series representation might be sufficient. If we perform the substitution $u{}={}t/\lambda$, so that $u<1$, note that the moment generating function may be re-written as
$$
\sum\limits_{r=1}^{\infty}\left(\dfrac{1}{1-u}\right)^r\left(1-e^{\lambda\left(u-1\right)}\right)^{r-1}e^{\lambda\left(u-1\right)}{}={}\sum\limits_{r=1}^{\infty}\sum\limits_{k=0}^{r-1}{r-1\choose k}\left(\dfrac{1}{1-u}\right)^r(-)^ke^{(k+1)\lambda(u-1)}\,.
$$
A series representation may be obtained, therefore, if we can invert the "atomic" moment generating functions
$$
\left(\dfrac{1}{1-u}\right)^r e^{(k+1)\lambda(u-1)}\,.
$$
Heuristically, we wish to solve an integral of the kind
$$
\int\limits_{-\infty}^{1}\left(\dfrac{1}{1-u}\right)^r e^{(k+1)\lambda(u-1)-xu}\,\,\mbox{d}u\,.
$$
For $x<\lambda(k+1)$, the integral's solution has the form
$$
(-\lambda)^{r}e^{-x}\left(\dfrac{x^{r-1}}{(r-1)!}\log(\lambda(k+1)-x){}+{}f_{r-1}(k)\right)
$$
where $f_{r-1}(k)$ is a rational function involving terms of, at most, degree "$r-1$" in $k$.
(Note: the explicit solution can be obtained by integrating the expression $\dfrac{(-\lambda)^re^{-x}}{\lambda(k+1)-x}$, "$r$"-times, w.r.t "$k$". A justification of this follows by differentiating the integral we wish to solve. Note, also, that our "$u$" substitution above was merely to make this presentation look nicer and puts this solution "off" by a factor of $\lambda$: the actual solution follows analogous operations using the $t$ variable, instead).
Best Answer
$$P(\xi_1 - \xi_2 = k) = \sum_{i=1}^{\infty} P(\xi_2 = i,\xi_1 = k+i) = \sum_{i=1}^{\infty}P(\xi_1=i)P(\xi_2 = k+i),$$ and you can calculate this sum easily using the mass functions of $\xi_1$ and $\xi_2$.