I have read through the first few chapters of Spivak, however my personal preference is for Apostol's Calculus. It's also a very rigorous approach, and a very well respected book, however it starts more gently than Spivak's. With Spivak's book, the problems start out extremely hard, and get easier as the book goes on (mostly by getting used to his style, not objectively). With Apostol I was able to understand and answer all the questions in the first few chapters much more easily, and then I saw the difficulty increase a bit; however it increases progressively throughout the book. Many of the problems in the introduction of Apostol are exactly the same as those in Spivak, however the order and context that they are presented in leads you to the correct method for proving them, whereas Spivak's are more isolated.
There are many great discussions about calculus books on other forums, such as The Should I Become a Mathematician? Thread on Physics Forums.
I agree wholeheartedly with mathwonk's statement that, although the books are difficult, reading different approaches and going over them multiple times is really what gives you a deeper understanding of calculus. Mathwonk also mentions that most students find Apostol very dry and scholarly, where Spivak is more fun; however, I have not found this to be the case. I have worked through every problem in Apostol's Calculus through chapter 10 so far, and it has been a joy (most times). As an added bonus, Apostol's Calculus covers linear algebra as well, and the second volume covers multivariable calculus. Spivak's analogous book, "Calculus on Manifolds", is known as an extremely difficult text, and is commonly used as an introduction to differential geometry (indeed, his comprehensive volumes on differential geometry mention Calculus on Manifolds as a prerequisite).
The choice of book should also reflect your future interests. I am a computer programmer currently, and am looking to go into mathematics exclusively. It sounds like you are still melding the two. I would say that Apostol's book might serve you a little better in this respect as well, as it is slightly tilted towards analysis, whereas Spivak's is tilted towards differential geometry. For instance, Apostol introduces "little-o" notation, a cousin of "big-O" notation which is used extensively in computer science. That being said, Spivak has been described by some as a deep real-analysis text more than a calculus book, so you would still deeply cover all the fundamentals.
Another set of calculus books which I own and are held in high regard are Courant's. My brief skim of them, as well as other's comments, suggest that they are more focused on applications perhaps than some of the other books. Apostol's is still, in my opinion, very well peppered throughout with applications; many chapters contain a specific "applications of ..." section which links the theoretical concepts you just learned with the applied use of those concepts.
My only exposure to Courant's expository style comes from his excellent book What is Mathematics. This is a book I would strongly recommend reading regardless of what calculus book you choose. I cannot praise Courant's lucid writing highly enough, and look forward to working though his Calculus texts in the future.
I think that you would find Apostol's book sufficiently rigorous, as well as extremely intuitive. I also am a musician, and coupled with my computer programming experience it seems that perhaps we think alike. Whatever book you choose, recognize before you start it that you are running a marathon, not a sprint.
You ask an interesting question.
First: working through Lang's Basic Mathematics on your own and doing all the exercises is an impressive feat for someone with little formal education (in mathematics).
All four of the calculus texts you ask about are more difficult than the average text, but you should be able to manage any of them. Any of them will give you a good foundation for further study.
I know Courant and Spivak reasonably well, Apostol and Lang only by reputation and reviews. Courant is a classic. It will give you the best sense of the depth and usefulness of calculus, and how to think about mathematics. Spivak is probably the most thoughtfully rigorous. I think Apostol would be the most thorough, touching just about anything that might appear in any calculus curriculum. Lang will be straightforward, but not encyclopedic.
You don't say why you are in a hurry, or where you want to go next (more reading? back to school?).
I would suggest that you spend some time working through the first chapter or so of each - I think you can see that material on line. Then decide which suits your learning style best. You might want to study from two of the books, so you can compare the approaches and learn from two views.
Good luck.
Edit in response to the edit.
In six or seven months you should be able to prepare yourself for that exam.
Optimization might require some knowledge of multivariable calculus and linear algebra. That's in the second volume of Apostol, maybe a bit in Courant.
I don't usually recommend studying toward a particular exam, but if you can find old copies of the one you have to take you'll have a little more information on what to be sure to think about.
Is there someone at the school you can talk to now about optimizing your chances for admission?
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Once you show that the function is strictly increasing, you're almost done. You just need to find $x_0$ such that $f(x_0)=4$ and you'll have that
The function $f\colon\mathbb{R}\to\mathbb{R}$ is indeed bijective, but this is not required for solving the problem.
For instance, $g(x)=e^x$ is increasing as well and you have $g(x)<1$ if and only if $x<0$, because $g(0)=1$. On the other hand, $g$ is not bijective, so you see this is unneeded for solving the similar problem.