For very strange reasons, the slot "6B
in the font sy-iwona
is empty. The \lVert
and \rVert
commands point to that slot, so you can't see any symbol because it's not there to begin with. The definition of \lVert
and \rVert
given by amsmath
are
\DeclareMathDelimiter{\lVert}
{\mathopen}{symbols}{"6B}{largesymbols}{"0D}
\DeclareMathDelimiter{\rVert}
{\mathclose}{symbols}{"6B}{largesymbols}{"0D}
which mean: in normal size take the character living in the symbol
font in slot "6B
while for bigger sizes take the character living in the largesymbols
font in slot "0D
. The difference between the two is that the former is given \mathopen
type, the latter is \mathclose
.
Indeed
$\norm[\big]{x}$
works, because the bigger delimiter is found.

There's not so much to do except taking the symbol from another font, for instance
\documentclass[border=4]{standalone}
\usepackage[math]{iwona}
\usepackage{mathtools}
\DeclareSymbolFont{extrasymbols}{OMS}{cmsy}{m}{n}
\DeclareMathDelimiter{\lVert}
{\mathopen}{extrasymbols}{"6B}{largesymbols}{"0D}
\DeclareMathDelimiter{\rVert}
{\mathclose}{extrasymbols}{"6B}{largesymbols}{"0D}
\DeclarePairedDelimiter\norm{\lVert}{\rVert}
\begin{document}
Testing $\norm{x}$.
Testing $\norm[\big]{x}$.
\end{document}

Unfortunately, a compatible candidate would be Kurier, which also lacks the symbol.
A different solution, that doesn't require a substitute font, is to emulate the symbol at the size it's missing.
\documentclass[border=4]{standalone}
\usepackage[math]{iwona}
\usepackage{mathtools}
\usepackage{xparse}
\DeclarePairedDelimiter\xnorm{\lVert}{\rVert}
\NewDocumentCommand{\norm}{som}
{\IfBooleanTF{#1}
{\xnorm*{#3}}
{\IfNoValueTF{#2}
{\mathopen{|\mkern-.8mu|}#3\mathclose{|\mkern-.8mu|}}
{\xnorm[#2]{#3}}%
}
}
\begin{document}
Testing $\norm{x}$.
Testing $\norm[\big]{x}$.
\end{document}
The \norm
symbol does like xnorm
unless it has no optional argument, in which case the two bars are produced from the single bar.

If you want a definition that works without doing the hack when the bug is fixed, you can do like this:
\documentclass[border=4]{standalone}
\usepackage[math]{iwona}
\usepackage{mathtools}
\usepackage{xparse}
\makeatletter
\AtBeginDocument{%
\check@mathfonts
\iffontchar\textfont2 "6B
\DeclarePairedDelimiter\norm{\lVert}{\rVert}
\else
\DeclarePairedDelimiter\xnorm{\lVert}{\rVert}
\NewDocumentCommand{\norm}{som}
{\IfBooleanTF{#1}
{\xnorm*{#3}}
{\IfNoValueTF{#2}
{\mathopen{|\mkern-1mu|}#3\mathclose{|\mkern-1mu|}}
{\xnorm[#2]{#3}}%
}%
}
\fi
}
\makeatother
\begin{document}
Testing $\norm{x}$.
Testing $\norm[\big]{x}$.
\end{document}
It works with all fonts so long as they don't use bizarre slots for the double vertical bar. It will define \norm
in the easier way if the character exists, otherwise it will do the hack.
You could use \arrownot
from stmaryrd
; the normal \not
seems too big for a simple bar.
\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{stmaryrd} % for \arrownot
\newcommand{\notedge}{%
\mathrel{\mkern-2mu}% a small back up
\arrownot % a short slash
\mathrel{\mkern2mu}% compensate
\mathrel{-}% minus as a relation
}
\begin{document}
$u\notedge v$
\end{document}

This exploits two facts: \arrownot
has zero width and is classified as a relation symbol (it extends past its bounding box); TeX doesn't add space between consecutive relation symbols (which can also be spaces)
This is how $u\not\mathrel{-}v$
would print:

A possible alternative:
\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{centernot}
\newcommand{\notedge}{\centernot{\mathrel{-}\joinrel\mathrel{-}}}
\begin{document}
$u\notedge v$
\end{document}

Another proposal with longer symbols:
\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{stmaryrd} % for \arrownot
\newcommand{\edge}{%
\mathrel{-}% minus as a relation
\joinrel\joinrel % some backup
\mathrel{-}% minus as a relation
}
\newcommand{\notedge}{%
\mathrel{\mkern2mu}% a small advancement
\arrownot % a short slash
\mathrel{\mkern-2mu}% compensate
\edge
}
\begin{document}
$u \edge v$
$u\notedge v$
\end{document}

Best Answer
Looking in the The Comprehensive LaTeX Symbol List reveals a
\bigtimes
symbol defined by themathabx
package.